I think we all know by now that paint is the most transformative thing you can do to a room for the smallest budget.
A few weeks ago, I posted this photo on Instagram stories. I polled you all on which color you all thought I should paint the loft. I ended up going with the bottom color which is “Pale Oak” by Benjamin Moore. I know a lot of people voted for the bright white, but trust me the darker color is still in the white family.
Here are the swatches up close and then a wall view of the whole wall before I painted.
ahhhh ahhhhhHHHH AHHHHHHHHHHHHH (In my Frozen 2 soundtrack voice)
I love it. I love it so much and I am so glad I didn’t go lighter. I want the white furniture to pop just a little but not compete with shades of white. Here are the furniture items that are staying: tv/tvstand/bookshelf, the tall bookshelf, the two navy blue desks, dollhouse and most likely the table.
At this point, it felt so good to have a clean slate to start. I hope you agree that it is a major improvement too. I cannot wait to get those black track lights down and finish the dollhouse. They are such an eyesore. That’s another week though!
All of the baseboards in this room got painted as well. I know some people think trim and baseboards are intimidating. This week I will show you in stories on instagram some tips and tricks to make it quick and painless. I promised myself that I will paint all of the baseboards room by room as I go and also swap out the almond colored outlets and switches.
I’ll be honest, at some point we will replace the flooring upstairs and I will put in new baseboards, but it is ABSOLUTELY WORTH THE TIME to give them a quick coat of paint until then. It will make your paint and room look complete. If you are like me and you skip this, you will be thinking about the fact that it needs done every time you come in this room.
That’s all for this week. This room has been used SO much the last month and I’m excited to keep getting stuff done in it. Whenever you clean out a space and make it more functional the people start using it more. The paint was a big job especially since we were using the room for our “homeschool/distance learning” at the same time. I wanted to get the outlets done but it just didn’t happen. I have few more things 1/2 done that aren’t pictured so next week will be a big progress post!
Loft To Do List:
clean out all excess books/toys/games/supplies
paint connecting stairwell
paint baseboards and door trim
hang bulletin boards and storage above desks
replace all plugs and switches
trim out windows
update window treatments
add chalkboard and map
add framed marker board
ledge for markers/chalk
makeover kids table
storage for craft/school supplies
finish AG Doll House
remove track lighting for can lights
add task lighting above desks
Thanks for reading! I’ll be back next week with another One Room Challenge update!
Hey! I hope you are having a great week. After 11 weeks of quarantine and home school I feel like my DIY time has been limited, but that’s how it goes! And today we are officially done with school!!! Some projects are hard to start given that everyone is home all day everyday and I can’t send them anywhere LOL!! I am making it work. This weekend I had to switch gears and work on my patio because the weather was too good to let it pass by.
During week 3 I hung a lot of items on the walls. I used everything I had previously purchased or found around my house for this room. I had enough to keep me busy all week.
There are still things I need to source to finish up the desk and “classroom” area (to play school not homeschool… this is temporary!!!) , but I wanted to get what I had on the walls. I bought a lot of this for the girls last Christmas, so I had a vision going.
I had these two prints from the target dollar section. The frames were sitting in my spare bedroom. (I can’t even tell you how long this took me to get these two level and spaced right… I don’t know what the heck was going on with me that day LOL quarantine brain!!!!
I wanted the desks to look symmetrical so they look cleaner and not messy and cluttered. Whatever system you use in a playroom, it has to be EASILY managed. What works for my house is simple, one step clean up and organization. Each desk has a little wicker basket that fits workbooks, notebooks and a few random trinkets that end up in this area.
*For example: put crayons in a an open container that is sitting out or on a shelf. Kids won’t (1)get container out of a cabinet (2) put them in the container and (3)put it back in cabinet. That AIN’T happening. It’s too many steps. Dropping them into a cup on the table they do art at is ONE STEP! Perfect!
So, here is what I have going on so far. I gave each girl a bulletin board for artwork and photos they love. (I love this for clutter control and limit the amount we keep in a period of time.) I installed a metal rod that has removable, hanging containers from Ikea. They no longer sell these exact ones, but here is something similar. Each side has three containers for colored pencils, sharpies, makers and twist crayons. (FYI these can stand on a table alone.) They each have a 3 tiered pen holder from Target a few years back on top of their desks too. (They might stay they might go!)
I hung a marker board I already had sitting in my basement home gym. This giant ornate frame from Stella’s nursery just happened to fit around it perfectly. I will show on stories later how I made it work. (spoiler: just chisel off the inside edge of the frame) The girls and I split this Target dollar spot ABC banner in half and hung it above with clear command hooks.
I brought up an old locker that I used in my salon for years as storage. It’s super bright but I’m undecided on what to do with that wall and if its the right storage. I plan on painting the marker board frame and the locker too!
I waited all week until Thursday afternoon to get cracking on my big projects I had been putting off. Two huge goals for the week were swapping out the four track lights for 4 recessed LED lights and then changing out all of the light switches and plug-ins/outlets for new updated ones. Below are a few messy snaps of what they looked like before!
If you followed along in Instagram stories, then you know this was a messy dry wall dust project, but so glad I did it anyway. If you have a similar situation in your house that you want to change, I just want you to know I had NEVER done this before and I figured it out, so that means you can too! Research, research, research and then go for it! (It always helps to run it by someone who does know how to do it to make sure you have a good plan.)
Ummm yes, do this during the day or you will be borrowing your kids headlight to finish during sunset! LOL Sometimes you just have to finish the project before you call it a night!
I can’t even tell you how much I love having those black track lights gone. I see this view when I wake up in my bed and I LOVE how clean it looks now.
I have a fan picked out ordered and I’m working on a top of the stairs light to coordinate. (The same flush mount light is above the stairs and two more in the adjoining hallway.)
In the next week I am hoping to patch and paint the ceiling and stairwell. For some reason, the previous owners painted this room’s ceiling a yellow tint and the hallway white. Gotta love that! Hope you all have a great remainder of your week and weekend! Hang in there!
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This tutorial took me almost 8 months to write. It is detailed with a lot of photos, which is why I was putting it off so long! Anyway I hope if you have considered building your own upholstered bed that this can help you. I had been eyeing all of the high back upholstered beds for a while. Our master bedroom is big and I wanted a statement bed. I also wanted a super comfortable and cosy bed, like an amazing hotel.
I thought our mattress was needing replaced (even though it was high end, fairly new and has a 25 year warranty) because it was becoming so uncomfortable. After I took everything off, it turned out the frame was too wide for the mattress and it wasn’t being supported properly. The slats were breaking down because the box spring was sitting on top of 1×2 slats, not the actual bed frame structure. The boards were cheap to be honest.
I looked at so many beds. I decided I wanted a really tall wing-back headboard with upholstered side rails and mid-century modern legs. The one I wanted was about $1000 on sale and it was not the most expensive by far. I was ready to buy it, but I knew I could do it for less myself and get the exact size, style and fabric that I wanted.
There are similar headboard tutorials, but I wanted to build an entire bed. I didn’t want a metal frame. I wanted to build a custom frame to fit the mattress and box spring tightly. It turned out better than I could ever have expected. I documented the process so I could share it here.
PLEASE READ IF YOU ARE BUILDING THIS BED: I am going to share what I did to build this bed with my dimensions. My bed is not a standard King. You can adapt it to fit yours. My bed measures 2.5 inches shorter on each side compared to a standard bed.
For reference: My mattress/ box spring measures 73.5 x 77.5 inches. A Standard King is 76×80
I started out by laying out the box springs together.
Step 1: Building the Bed Frame
I measured the box spring and added 1 inch to each side. Then using 2x4s I framed out the base of the bed. I chose to make the base almost the same size as the box spring so the bed fits tight and secure in the frame.
I added 3 slats spaced evenly between the frame boards for support. (Remember: this is for a bed WITH a box spring. If you don’t use one you will need more slats for support). I used 3 inch wood screws to put these together.
I used these 6 inch Mid-Century Modern Legs purchased from Amazon. I needed to add a little block in each corner to support their square bases. (I attached the blocks with two wood screws as well) Depending what type of legs you use, you may or may not need to add these blocks. Predrill the holes for the base plates. After the plates are on you just screw the legs in.
Flip the frame over. You will need to add more “leg supports” in the middle of the bed if it is a King size. I used scrap 2x4s for this. Because I am upholstering the entire frame, and it is sitting low to the ground, you cannot see these “rough legs”. If you are concerned, you might want to purchase extra “pretty” ones.
Cut four legs and attach them to the second and forth slats so they are out of sight. Put the box spring or mattress back on the bed because next we are going to make the upholstered side and foot rails.
Step 2: Building and Upholstering the Side and Foot Rails
I bought one sheet of 4×8 foot plywood to rip down (cut into strips) to make the rails. Below is a diagram of how I had Lowe’s rip my 4×8 board. I have a miter saw so I cut the small cuts at home. They ripped 3-10 inch wide planks and 2-9 inch planks.
Remember when figuring out the lengths of these rails the FRONT board needs to cover the side boards so you don’t see the ends from the front. It will make sense in the next few pictures. The side rails only need to cover the 2×4 frame.
In the picture below, you can see I laid all 3 side rails out so they tightly framed in the base of the bed. After you “dry fit” them, then it’s time to upholster.
I used upholstery grade fabric from JoAnn Fabric. This is the best choice because it can withstand the pulling and stapling without ripping. (The fabric looks a little wrinkled but it isn’t, I needed to steam it.) You need to upholster all three rails. (I did not take pictures of upholstering the rails. I did take better pictures of the remaining pieces, so after you see all of them it will be easy to do the rails.) Basically you wrap it with batting and then with upholstery like a present. the entire back doesn’t need to be covered. Just pull it as tight as you possibly can. You will use a million staples.
After all three are all upholstered, starting with the front rail, you want to attach it to the main 2×4 frame. make sure to use 2 inch or under screws, but be careful not to go through the front of the rails. You will attach the rail to the frame from the inside of the 2×4 frame. Make sure the board is level and even before doing the sides.
Don’t worry if the rails seem like they aren’t standing up straight, this is where the “L brackets” come in. As you can see in the second picture it straightens them right out. When you are screwing through the fabric you might have to cut a little hole or cut out the batting so it goes through to the wood easily.
Next, I will show you my cheap trick to hide the box spring. I took a white fitted king sheet I had on hand and covered the box spring with it tightly. Then add the mattress on top, and now its time for the final piece- THE HEADBOARD!
Step 3: Building and Upholstering the Headboard
The headboard is made out of two wingback pieces(these are mirror images-one left and one right) and the main back piece. I have a lot of photos but it’s not super complicated. (Please excuse some of the messy pictures. I was building this in the room with all of my old furniture, two kids and trying to get it done to surprise my traveling husband … can we say #makeitwork?)
The first picture is terrible but it is the only picture I could find without the main headboard piece assembled. The wood for the wingbacks are sitting in place in the back (in case you couldn’t picture it.) The second picture is the bed assembled.
FYI: My headboard is 60 inches tall from the floor to the top.
First we are going to build the two wingback pieces. DO NOT FORGET ONE RIGHT ONE LEFT SIDED PIECES! I am using the the plywood that was ripped 9 inch wide. I cut it to 60 inches tall. I decided that I wanted these to be thicker so they looked more substantial from the front view. I doubled up the 9 inch wide plywood from the top of the headboard until it hits the frame of the bed/ side rails. For my bed this was 44 inches of double plywood (This is the part that might be confusing.) I pieced it with left over scraps. After it is upholstered YOU CANNOT tell at all. (Look at the photo below for a better idea). The second picture shows what it looks like with the fabric over it.
I then attached a 60inch 1×4 on the side. This 1×4 will be behind the headboard against the wall. I cut a rectangle of batting. I sprayed the back of the wing with adhesive and laid it on top making sure it was smooth. (Think wrapping a gift)
As you can see I left the batting off of part of the 1×4. This is because it will get bulky when you add the headboard later. The batting can be fitted and stapled and then trimmed LAST, so don’t worry about it being perfect until you are ready to put fabric on it. I was marking where the headboard would go on the wing. Mine was 33 inches-which is pictured on the measuring tape. That is the part of the wing that will show when the bed is assembled.
(Pictured above 1-6)
(1-2) Cut a piece of upholstery fabric and using the spray adhesive make a folded over hem. (spray the edge and fold it over straight). (3) Test wrap the fabric and neatly trim off the excess. Cut a rectangle that will cover the exposed end. (4)spray the L shaped end and place the rectangle on it. Cut little square corners out to get rid of excess fabric. (5-6) spray and wrap the main fabric around covering the raw edges.
Part of this will not show, but I decided I wanted to fully wrap the exposed wood. Staple it in the seam but remember the top part of this will show and you don’t want dents. Spray adhesive is enough on the wide flat parts.
This view is from the bottom. You can see where the wood was doubled up and then when it transitions to single ply. Repeat the same process to the bottom of the board to cover the batting. I did not put batting on the inside of the “L” on the 1×4 side as seen above I just wrapped the fabric around. You can see in the second picture out the wing is thick and then rests right on top of the side rail. It turned out to work better than I pictured. It makes it feel really cozy and well made. In the pictures below you can see that the 1×4 pieces don’t show after we attach the back piece so you can put as many staples in that area as you need.
Step 4: THE MIDDLE HEADBOARD
The FINAL piece is the middle back of the headboard. THIS IS THE EASIEST PART. The only thing you need to remember is, , make this fabric wrap as tight as you possibly can. You don’t want it to sag or wrinkle after all of that work. It is the main thing you see.
The headboard piece is a plywood sheet measuring 33x 77.5 (same width as front rail). It is a large rectangle. You need the foam mattress pad, batting and the upholstery fabric. Start by cutting the foam mattress pad to the size of the headboard. Use spray adhesive to attach it. I had to stretch mine because it was slightly too small. DO NOT STAPLE THE FRONT OF THE HEADBOARD.
After the foam you will wrap the headboard in batting. it will smooth the foam out around the edges. Cut a piece of upholstery for the final wrap. I made mine really neat and symmetrical, but it is not necessary as it does not show. I folded in a side first, turning under the raw edge and stapling the fabric tight. I cut off part of the excess fabric on the corners. Leave one of the long edges for last and pull it as tight as possible.
All that is left to do is attach the two wingbacks to the main headboard piece. I found it easiest to lay the main piece face down on the mattress as pictured below. Then lay each wing piece on top and screw them to the headboard from the back of the 1×4 piece. I did 4 screws on each side and it felt very sturdy.
I did not attach the headboard onto the main frame/base, but you could do that with screws or more metal brackets. I stood it up in place and pushed the frame against the wall in front of it.
Just incase you thought this room was finished and clean.. this is the reality of doing DIY project along with life… what you usually don’t see on the other side of the shot! LOL it is all cleaned up and gone now, but I had to document the mess too!
Here are a few updated pictures of the bed now. I LOVE it and look forward to climbing in every. single. night! If you ever have a question feel free to contact me!
FYI: These are the supplies I needed based on my bed measurements and the supplies I had on hand. I had some left over plywood and the 2-1x4s.
Make sure to measure out the fabric needed before ordering. Originally I ordered fabric and it was not one continuous piece so I had to order more half way through. If I didn’t have that mistake I would have made it for under $250!! I had already started cutting so I couldn’t return the pieces. I still feel like I got an amazing custom bed in a few days for under $300!!!
Thank you for reading and let me know if you build a bed of your own!
The Spring One Room Challenge has been postponed until May 7, but I started on the original schedule because I am well underway with the room and I am using this as motivation to finish. The room I chose was our Loft. It is the landing at the top of our stairs on the second floor.
The Loft has been our kids playroom since we moved into the house. In the beginning we didn’t have any storage or furniture. We just threw everything up there because it just was NOT a priority. This room has evolved so many times. I never really had a solid plan. I built some different storage units but they weren’t well thought out for the toys we had and the storage we needed.
This is what it looked like when we bought the house. The day we moved in we ripped this carpet out. People have different standards for pets… we prefer they go to the bathroom OUTSIDE. Thankfully it was just carpet and padding, not the sub floor, but I rolled KILLZ on it anyway.
Later we discovered there was wallpaper and a boarder up, which had been painted over. That was NOT fun to remove. There were a few rooms in the house where they painted over a boarder and then put up thin moulding around it so I had ZERO clue there was actual wallpaper under it! We removed the paper and painted the walls this gray.
I tried to find the earliest pictures. This is right after we moved in, painted and put in new carpet.
Paint is Cathedral Gray by Behr in Satin (babies/toyroom/handprints must be durable)
I spent the first year living here painting the ENTIRE house. It was nice to let Alaire play in this space while I worked. Sometimes it was a disaster but at least it was in one room.
At some point I built these Pottery Barn inspired shelves from anawhite.com. A lot of the play furniture is built from plans on her site. As our kids have gotten older we have added and removed toys and storage. I ended up selling all of the white shelving units, the kitchen set, and food stand. We also upgraded our tv during the decade at some point!
The best thing we did at this point was sell and donate EVERYTHING except what the girls actually love. This is a tricky room because as kids grow their favorites and interests grow, so its not a one and done type clean out. These areas have to be managed annually. It’s just life.
If you feel overwhelmed by toys and trinkets, here is my advice you didn’t ask for: QUIT BUYING IT. Ask friends and family not to either. I know it might seem harsh but people buy too much crap for our kids. My kids don’t need trinkets and toys for everything that has ever happened to them. Items don’t replace memories or relationships. It causes stress on your kids and you! (Unless you are a unicorn and it doesn’t bother you!). Bring less in and you have to clean less out.
Onto the current “BEFORE”
This is what the loft looks like now. Christmas 2018 I bought the white bookshelves and the desks. The girls love to do art, drawing and play school. They wanted to turn part of the loft into a “classroom”. I bought some stuff to do it but then didn’t completely set it up.
Flash forward… now we are in quarantine and doing school from home. I not only have a lot of the supplies on hand to update/refresh/finish this space, but now I have more motivation too!
My goal for this room is to have a clean, light, functional space where my kids can play, work on homework (homeschool temporarily) play games and just have fun. I want a space that is easy on the eyes, yet functional, comfortable, and flexible as well. This room is the view from my bedroom and the first thing you see when you walk up the stairs.
Loft To Do List:
clean out all excess books/toys/games/supplies
paint connecting stairwell
paint baseboards and door trim
hang bulletin boards and storage above desks
replace all plugs and switches
trim out windows
update window treatments
add chalkboard and map
add framed marker board
ledge for markers/chalk
makeover kids table
storage for craft/school supplies
finish AG Doll House
remove track lighting for can lights
add task lighting above desks
It is a “lofty” list… no pun intended but I am hoping for the best. I am going to try to get all of this done in the next 8 weeks. Obviously given current circumstances and access to supplies online, I could run into a few projects not being able to be completed right now. I am just going to do my best to get as many items checked off with what I can get a hold of and what I have on hand.
I will be posting here on the blog everything Thursday for the next 7 weeks with updates and projects completed! Also follow along on instagram @itsannamariepalmer for additional content, stories and photos of the process Wish me luck!
If you want to check out all of the other participants head over here-ORC Blog Page for LOTS of inspiration and other bloggers/DIY’ers/ Designers.
I shared my To Do List on the post “Master Bedroom No. 1.” I’m sure you were thinking it was a bit daunting! Don’t worry I already completed a handful of the items on it!
If you don’t remember the current “Before”… it was GREEN… very GREEN!!!!
Drew and I were getting ready to go on a 10 year anniversary trip to Greece the last two weeks of September, so I started this project in August and used the trip as motivation to get the room put back together before we left. (I need time restraints sometimes to get motivated)
The first project I did was build a custom upholstered bed. I will share a full tutorial for this bed very soon! It was a large project, but very doable, even for a beginner DIY project. You don’t even know how excited I was when it all worked out the way I had planned in my head. I will share a TON of step by step photos and details on the fabric in the tutorial post.
The next and biggest project was painting this room. This took me a hot minute, but the transformation was so good. I LOVE coming into this room now. I wanted a big bold accent wall in a moody blue green and a clean white for the remaining walls.
I decided to paint the main accent wall and the baseboards the same color too. I kept the hanging side lamps because they are so functional and on remote switches. I love that they don’t take up any nightstand surface space too. I still liked the cork shades for a natural element and texture as well.
At this point I decided that I wanted to build out a custom closet and get rid of all of our dressers and other bedroom furniture. I want to use the space to have more seating without feeling crowded. It wasn’t functioning to come into the main bedroom and then back and forth to the closet to get clothes. Our closet is very large and it would be a shame to not bring it to its full potential!!! (ammmiirighhht ladies???)
We priced the furniture to sell and got it out right away. For a temporary solution we bought two plastic drawer sets and put them in our closet. Realistically we each only needed a few drawers to replace the dressers. This is a good way to see what we actually need to function when I make over the closet.
This is the listing photo on my master bedroom. The room is big. That’s the best thing it had going for it. I feel like I could sneeze looking at those curtains. So dirty!!! As with most of the house, I could see the potential. This house is a very open, spacious floor plan, but the previous owners REALLY made us have to look past the decor.
Fun Fact: We made an offer on this house without Drew seeing it in person. Talk about the ultimate trust test!
This picture was taken August 2019, but it has pretty much looked the same since we moved in. (June 2011). I painted the room this green after we moved in, which looks really bright in this picture, but it’s probably more like the window wall in person. NO EXCUSES it’s terrible. I didn’t love the color from the beginning, but its a LARGE undertaking to paint this room and other things just always took precedence. When we bought I was going through an “overwhelmed by going from decorating a little town house or apartment to a large family home” phase. I tried to paint every room something different. Let’s just say, it didn’t need to be done. Live and learn.
Over the years from 2011-2019 I did the following to this room:
filled a million nail/ screw holes and painted the walls
hung new curtains
replaced the ceiling fan
put in new carpet
hung bedside hanging lamps
towel hooks in hallway
Overall, we have not done much in here. It’s such an amazing space and has so much potential. It was killing me that we could possibly leave this home and had never used this or ENJOYED this space. The area by the door always seemed to be an overflow dumping ground for random items, fix it and donation piles. It’s right off of the loft/playroom and the stairs, so that seems to happen.
Last summer I decided when the kids went back to school I was going to make over this room. I felt like we really deserved a place to relax and unwind at the end of the day. I wanted it to be a room we put some effort into because our whole family spends a decent amount of time in here. I have made over kids bedrooms multiple times and I was ready to put in some thought into my own!
I knew I wanted to paint, declutter, get rid of all of the main furniture, and get a big high back upholstered bed. I also knew I could build one, so I waited until Drew was on a work trip for a week to attempt it before selling all of our furniture. (He doesn’t LOVE construction zones and I like the element of surprise and a deadline to keep me motivated.)
I feel like there are a million things to do in this room, not even including the closet and bathroom. Here is my main project list:
To Do List for Master Bedroom:
Build new upholstered king sized bed
Sell bedroom set and move clothes into closet
Hang new curtains and rods
Replace all plug-ins and switches
Frame out windows
Add a couch or daybed
Full Length Mirror between windows
Faux Fireplace and/or TV built in
Add minimal bookshelves/Update Office area
Accent Chairs/End of Bed Bench
Oh crap, LOL that’s a lot left to do, but I try not to get overwhelmed. Some stuff is 100% going to happen and some are just ideas! It doesn’t all have to happen at once either!
This is basically my “BEFORE” post and I will be sharing what we have done to this room, what it looks like now (obviously with before and after pictures), along with all of the continuing projects as we do them!
Thanks for stopping and comeback for No. 2 update soon!
I have been a mom for 10 years. A decade. I, like most of you have shed blood, sweat and tears over these precious babies. I love them so damn much. There aren’t words. Little tears pop out when I think about it too much. How lucky I am to be their mom. Sometimes tears pop out if I think about how many days and hours I spend wiping asses, floors, and cabinet doors. Don’t think for a minute I don’t know some day my heart will ache when they quit making these messes and they don’t crawl into my bed to hug me before sun comes up. I already know it will. I miss the little chubby babies they once were and the silly toddlers and soon I’ll mis this age right now. That hurts too, and it’s hard to live in the now and have the 20/20 vision that only comes with looking in the rearview.
I’m in the thick of it. It’s the filling of a donut. First bite is just the dry dough, no pudding, but then you find it. Its heavy and sweet and you think it lasts forever, but it doesn’t and pretty soon you’ve eaten it all and you are back to the dry donut you had at the very beginning.
I’m going to tell you right now. I can’t end up a dry donut butt with no pudding. I can’t only enjoy the middle. I WON’T. I REFUSE. I will love every damn moment of this motherhood…. But I don’t need to be here with my kids 24/7 to be a good mama who loves her kids and neither do you. You were someone before and you will be someone after. You do not have to wait though, YOU CAN BE SOMEONE IN THE MIDDLE YEARS. Is it harder to make happen? YES of course it is, but it’s not impossible.
Last weekend I took one night- 24 hours off from being a mom, a wife, a house manager, a taxi driver and even from my new gig-half assed-housewife (kidding but…). I didn’t go anywhere spectacular or over the top, but trust me when I say I can have a REAL good time anywhere. My friend has a lake house and we usually go for one night in the winter. It’s a few hours away and I love riding in the car, getting ready together, getting midnight snacks at the gas station. It takes me back to being in my early 20’s and I love it! I’ve taken all kinds of girls trips with ALL sorts of people and it doesn’t matter if they are expensive and somewhere warm or just one night out-they are all an escape from the daily grind. We all deserve time away from the regular scheduled programming once in a while.
Do you take time off for yourself and your girlfriends or even a solo trip or night away? Yes? Great! Keep it up because it’s important for your sanity. One of my biggest mom goals is to NOT star in my own Lifetime Movie and this is one of the things I do to try to keep the streak going.
If you are the type of girl who just CAN. NOT. LEAVE. THE. KIDS. well, keep reading because here are my top 10 reasons to seal the deal that you are doing the right thing for yourself.
TOP 10 reasons to SKIP the Girls TRIP/ Nights Off From Your Kids:
Your kids would find out there is more than one way to put them to bed at night.
Your spouse might do all of the things you’ve been thinking you wish he would, but you can’t quit doing all of them because you want them done “right”. What would you have to complain about then?
You don’t want to experience the bear hug from your whole family when they missed you even if it was “just one night”.
Your kids would appreciate you even more after realizing how much you do for them in your absence.
You can’t. You just can’t. It will be social suicide. What would you have to complain about with Gina, your BFF who also never leaves her kids? You would be on the losing side of the battle of who gets less time away from being a mom.
You will DEFINITELY get kicked out of your Facebook group “Martyr Moms” when someone tags you in pictures in a bikini cannon balling into a pool.
You will avoid the euphoria and peace that comes from taking an actual break from regular life.
You would have to start over at day one when you are competing for who hasn’t had a night out in the longest with your spouse.
You are saving your kids from finding out that you have friends besides them and you actually enjoy doing something besides changing diapers, taxi driving kids to practices and vacuuming the floor. They could even find out what’s under your mom bun-Thank god you aren’t going to let your hair down!
You won’t have to make memories, cry laughing over old ones, eat a ton of junk food, maybe drink a few drinks or fountain sodas, burn your tongue on frozen pizzas and dance to your favorite rap songs at a dive bar before crashing in a bed without any short people showing up.
All jokes aside, I hope all of you mamas realize how important you are.
I hope you know that if no one tells you how hard your job is- I see you and I know you are doing your best.
We all are doing our best with what we have and where we are now. I won’t babysit your kids for you-I’m not THAT nice, but I will have you back if that side-eyed mom from school is talking smack about you.
Make sure you are taking care of yourself. Make sure you are taking a break. You can’t do it all and you don’t NEED to do it all. These babies are watching. These little girls are seeing how they should treat themselves by looking at us.
This mom job doesn’t come with paid time off, so you have to MAKE it happen. You won’t regret it, I promise. Unfortunately, no one is going to step in and say “sweetie you are about 3 weeks from having a 2 year old meltdown at the grocery store, it’s time you schedule a break for yourself”.
If you saw my Instagram stories this week, then you know what I’m talking about when I say you might even have fun with a $3 pretend turd from a roadside gas station! Dream big my friends!
Keep reaching for the stars and enjoy the long weekend with your family or friends!
P.S. I know someone will message me and tell me that they don’t want to go out with friends, they don’t want to be away from their family/kids/spouse/hot mess house. Okay that’s great, but you are an outlier. This message isn’t for you. (see big red X in the corner of the browser window.) It’s for the women who feel guilty or have a hard time doing something they WANT to do for themselves!
I don’t know how but it’s Friday again and the last day of January! We have a pretty full weekend over here! My girls and Drew have a Father/Daughter Dance on Saturday, tonight we have pizza night (thank you 6lb 7 oz baby Jesus!) and of course it’t the best day of the year for food and FOOTBALL… the Super Bowl! NFL is lyyyyyyfe for my husband and I love me some football party food so I’m just as excited! I will be making a crazy food spread with my favorite buffalo wings! I’m also going to attempt to make some team sugar cookies for our guests. Maybe half-assed housewife will make a cameo!
And now to what you all came here for… Friday Favorites!
Lover Block Hot Pink Graphic Sweatshirt– Beware this is a HUGE online boutique. They put out new stuff everyday and its beautiful!!!! Check their website and subscribe to their emails. They give out a lot of 20% off discount codes. E-mail me if you can’t find one!
Walmart Animal Print Comfiest PJS EVER!– They look like high waters in the picture but they aren’t. The top has a drawstring waist and its cute! They are lightweight but warm. In store you can buy separates. I bought a medium and its roomy. I saw a few other prints but they were picked over for sizing.
Christen Michael Glow Eye Revive– I just went and picked this up today I was dying without it all week. I love Christen and I’ve shared her products before. She’s a friend, her products have a clean list of ingredients, and the smell is just so fresh and amazing. This is corny but its like a drink for under the eyes. Here in the fabulous STL the weather is 70 one day and snowing the next. My skin reacts quickly to it and I need the moisture!!!! Tell Christen you know me for free shipping… JK she ALWAYS has free shipping if you aren’t local!
Well that’s all folks! Thanks for spending your time here and I hope you find something fun for yourself!
Hey Ya’ll I hope you have had a fabulous week. Am I a homeschool mom now? These kids I tell ya! We had school today… I was shocked I’ll be honest. It seems like my kids have not gone a full week since November. Probably because they haven’t. Anyone else dying for a normal routine?!?
If you have been living under a rock, then I will tell you this week I ran the pilot episode of “The Half-Assed Housewife Cooking Show”. Don’t worry, Season One got picked up and it’s a go people!
Here’s some of my favorites this week (and the last few weeks too… its been a while. Click the picture or the captions for the links!).
1.Revlon One-Step Hair Dryer and Volumizer– I reviewed this dryer this week and loved it. A handful of people did say it was hard on their hair and caused frizzy hair. Watch the temp and make sure to use some heat protectant or smoothing product. This is on sale right now for $38 (you save $21!!!)
2. Leopard High Waisted Fitness Leggings– These are ridic… and amazing. I thought I might wear them just at home, but that’s lame I wore them to the gym last week and they were fun! I always am motivated by new workout clothes! The price point is great too, especially for fun prints!
3. Filas Sport Ottoman Sweatshirt in Hush Aqua- I shared this shirt yesterday. I loved it! It’s not too thick and not too thin. I don’t love a lot of layers, especially with crew necks. This is the best weight! I used an additional 25% off coupon with the sale price and got it for under $20!
4. Kiehl’s Ultra Facial Cream– Sephora just picked up Kiehl’s brand over the holidays. If you have ever used their stuff you know its not full of junk and works well. Anything I’ve ever bought from them is awesome! This is a great medium weight moisturizer for day or night. I put oils on my face at night and after they soak in, I top it with this!
5. Lace Sleeved Top-$10… YES 10 doll hairs. I sized up after reading reviews. Did I say this is 10 dollars?!?!?! Its great for transitioning Winter to Spring… WHICH IS COMING SOMETIME!
I love this time of year! I get really tired the last few days of winter break, I’m sure none of you can relate LOL. My whole family needs rest and relaxing. It’s the best few days we spend together. We have nothing to do, no where to go, no where to be. Did I shower? Did I put on real clothes? Probably not.
2019 was a good year for the Palmers, but also a pretty exhausting one. All good things, but I’m glad it’s over none the less. It was probably the most demanding year for my husband’s job that we have ever had, which has the trickle down effect on myself and the girls. He traveled A LOT. It does, however, make me thankful for our little family, our traditions and the time we have together. We had some great things happen this year too, but I’m ready for the next episode.
I always take the first few weeks of January to re-evaluate our lives, commitments, systems, and the flow of our home. The kids have gone back to school and we have almost recovered from the aftermath of the holidays. (still have to put all of my holiday trees away.) Every single year I get better and better at getting rid of mental, physical and scheduling clutter (aka shit we don’t need, need to be doing or need to be thinking we need to be doing!) I don’t really do resolutions, but I am a planner so I do get intentional about what I’m doing in the next year and how I’m going to make it happen.
I have done a lot of methods to get all of my goals and “to-dos” down on paper. This year I bought the Power Sheets Goal Planner by Cultivate what matters. Its a pretty intense in depth goal planner. I have been working on filling it out the last few weeks. I’m excited to see if it is motivational for me! If anyone has used it in the past I would love to hear your thoughts.
If you know me personally, you know I’ve dabbled in a few businesses, careers, been a full time SAHM (stay at home mom), been a work from home/stay at home mom, part-time volunteer, substitute teacher, student and pretty much everything in-between.
I’m going to go out on a limb here being super vulnerable and not the kind from the bachelor when you get out of the limo and have to come up with some weird stunt. I am really good at a lot of pieces of my life, but this part is something I struggle with. I have SO. DANG. MANY. interests and things I LOVE to do, that I want to learn more about. It’s really hard for me to do one thing. I get excited and I lose focus. Before I had kids and even when I was a teenager I always had multiple jobs. I loved it. I love working and I love changes of pace.
I have, however, been a hair stylist for about 14 years. It has been such a great gig, especially when my kids were little. I could make my own schedule and work super part time. Back story-I moved to the St. Louis area about 10 years ago, 9 months pregnant and didn’t know a soul. I found a moms group and doing hair again just fell into my lap. A handful of the women used the same stylist and she was moving to Brazil of all things. I ended up meeting great friends and clients that I love dearly. I worked at a salon one day a week to keep my license after I had Alaire and then put a salon into my house soon after we bought it in 2011. It was super convenient but after about 8 years I got tired of the house traffic and I became a little neurotic about the hair in my house. It was hard to work when my husband traveled and my kids were home for the summers. They needed me and it became more work than it was worth. I opened a studio salon for a few years in there somewhere and then I ended up renting a space 2 days a week most currently. It’s the best place. The owner is amazing. The studio and the rental were my happy places doing hair.
I love it so much, but over the years I have gone back and forth on whether or not this is what I should be doing. I also developed severe eczema on my hands when I started doing hair. (Not to be rude, but I’ll be blunt, please spare me cures for it. I HAVE DONE EVERYTHING. Western medicine and homeopathic, food sensitivities, outdoor allergies, skin testing, you freaking name it- I have done it. I’ve seen every dermatologist, allergist and witch doctor this side of the Mississippi.) I have had eczema, have my whole life, maybe always will, but hair color BLOWS IT UP! Bad, like REAL BAD. I can maintain it pretty well and I know what triggers it but the chemicals just do it wrong.
Okay I went off on a tangent. The point is, I have been doing a lot of thinking about what I really want to be doing (I’ve actually been STRUGGLING with this for years) I think I know what it is that I want to be doing, but I’ve been scared to dive in and go for it. I was reading something once about this subject and the author was describing being scared to fail. I read it to Drew and he assured me I am NOT scared to fail but scared to succeed… HOLY SHIT he’s right I am. So dumb but it has some truth. What is it that I want to do then? It’s not one thing. It’s not a 9-5. It isn’t what everyone else is doing. It might be misunderstood or criticized by people who don’t get it. (okay that made it sounds like its something weird-LOL its not) That’s okay they don’t have to live my life. As annoying and frustrating as my hopping around has been for me at times and probably for my husband, I have really enjoyed the last decade with my babies and the time to work through this career path thing I’ve been doing.
So flash forward…
A few weeks ago, my husband got a new job that he’s been working his butt off to get for years. I am so proud of him. He deserves it. Because we’ve known he would apply for this job, we’ve also been in a little bit of life limbo. We bought a house 8 years ago, but for the last 3-4 years, we have thought we might not permanently live here. There have been possible opportunities I have put on hold and things we haven’t done because “if we move”. I feel like for the last 2 years that’s always in the back of my mind. When he got the job we requested to move to Minneapolis. It got denied. I won’t lie, I was disappointed. I was slightly relieved too. I was torn on which would be better.
Moving back would mean closer to some family and in a city I love, but we are established here in St.Louis and we are happy to be here too. I tell myself I can be happy anywhere. It’s true! Plus my kids might die with the weather. They are 100% STL people.
So what’s the point of telling you all of this? It leads me to what I want to say. I am officially stepping back from the chair. I won’t be doing hair anymore in the salon. I will miss my clients dearly. The good thing is most of them are friends. I will set them up with a wonderful stylist that will take the best care of them!
What am I going to do then you ask? Oh you didn’t ask? LOL Sorry I’m going to tell you anyway. I am going to work full time on my blog. I have a lot of ideas and plans for it and I’m excited to go all in. Yup, another suburban mom with an outlet and an insta account. If you saw my first Outfit of the Day on Instagram stories a few weeks ago, then you understand why I feel confident with moving forward with this decision.(kidding!). Now, if you are done rolling your eyes and exhaling for all to hear…
I’m now going to get cheesy and I’m glad I don’t have to look you in the eyes to say this because I’d start laughing or get embarrassed and run off stage. (I actually did that once on NYE at a piano bar LOL… ask Drew.. he makes fun of me at least once a week for it.) This has been on my heart for A LONG time. My gifts are being sat on. I’m not doing what I’m best at or what gives me life. I have done a lot of work to get here. This didn’t happen overnight. Maybe I wasted a shitload of time and resources, but here I am. Maybe you don’t get it. Maybe you grew up wanting to be one thing and went to school graduated and are doing that career. I’m happy for you! Sometimes I wish I was wired that way… but I’m not. I have tried and failed- a lot. If you made it this far, thank you. For being supportive, curious, nosey, a friend- whatever your reason. I hope that you will follow along with me on whatever it is this is going to be.
2020 is already off to a great start. I have a lot of goals mapped out. Some of them are calling a friend or planning to see people that I’ve been meaning to visit and some are big and exciting like gutting my bathroom. (That’s exciting for me! LOL)
So back to that, do you goal plan or have resolutions? Do you check back in later in the year to see if you’ve done them? I haven’t always, but I have been the last few years and it has worked really well! I’ll have to share some awesome ways to brain dump all of your goals and habits you want to add into your life sometime.
This blog post. This decision. These are two goals I just checked off my list! Thanks for reading/listening/being my therapist. Send me your address I owe you $150 check.